How I Speak About My Family
Much of the world has access to verbiage, narratives, information, (misinformation), perspectives, lived experiences, we just…didn’t have before.
If you’re a late-identified Autistic and / or generational cycle-breaker, or discovering Neurodivergence or Autism in the family through a child, you may know the human toll required to make it through a day.
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My family, like yours, is made of human beings on a long, difficult path through what is and has been at play for a long time: a rapid shift of consciousness and potential awakening on planet Earth.
How we depict, perceive, and experience things may change in the blink of an eye. If you know a PDA’er or are one, you may know we are experienced in this kind of embodied change.
And if you’re someone who brought home an Autism report (or had done extensive research and shadow work)
…that pointed to life realities no one (who hadn’t experienced or were experiencing and not conscious of) might perceive or process,
you may know the warfare of ‘trying to be on the same page’ - about anything by this point.
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We can’t eliminate pain, probably shouldn’t to some degrees, but the depths of this kind of pain were, in many ways,
1. Unintentional
2. Predictable to those who have traversed these paths (ah, hindsight…)
3. Total life and capacity suckers with insufferable margins for our families and lives.
But I’m frank about what’s in this work from where I stand:
I work to reduce unnecessary suffering around here.
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The subtle energies, love and the hard things surrounding it, my family, ancestors left behind, or showed me and I couldn’t access helpfully…were leading to now.
All that is to say,
here’s how I speak about my family:
In vague but relevant ways.
As people with whom, together, we went through a collective trauma.
As victims who lost a daughter, sister, aunt to the Mental Health Industry.
As someone who lost my family.
In healing and regeneration.
We need to start getting real about the long-term aspects of what’s been leading people to spaces like we were forced into. There’s isn’t space for blame, ‘person vs. person’.
It doesn’t actually matter ‘who’ it was; Many *many families are going through this.
Neurodivergence can be a fantastic bridge, so let’s use the tools for what we can.
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Thank you for being here.
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Vinnie Stars is an Autistic / ADHD PDA’er, disabled cycle-breaker, coach, speaker, and guide.
